“If You Know Someone Who Doesn’t Believe Sexism Exists, Show Them This”
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Just put this on all my social media. Feeling a rant coming on, and what I have to say is only the teensiest tip of the iceberg of this problem.
THIS WHOLE SCHTICK ENRAGES ME, how people just DON’T REALIZE that rape culture exists, that sexism exists, that misogyny exists.
I know I know there’s a lot going on for men and transgendered folk, racism, etc, i know our world is just shitty all around but this impacts me the most out of any issue bc it directly affects me.
I hate how feminism has been given a bad reputation to many people, labeling it “stupid” and “pointless.” It’s about sticking up for women’s rights. How do you not give a shit about the welfare of HALF the world’s population? If there weren’t problems with misogyny there wouldn’t be feminists, so no - it’s not “stupid” in the slightest.
I hate dreading watching certain things with my boy just bc there are women’s breasts and butts in it just bc of the cinematography used and the “male gaze” (something I didn’t even know there was a term for until earlier in the week). I hate feeling guilty for not wanting to watch it bc my boy doesn’t seem to understand why I don’t want to watch it, furthermore I hate that it actually hurts his feelings bc he doesn’t understand WHY I don’t want to watch it. It makes me so jealous of other girls with fuller breasts (pointlessly! bc I love my own!!) that meet the beauty standards of society. It makes me feel inadequate. It makes me feel very shitty when I see my boy get visibly excited about another woman’s breasts and butt just bc some movie director knows he’ll get more views if he films the scenes in the way the camera lingers on the woman’s reproductive parts. It’s pretty fucking rare that you’ll see a “female gaze” in cinematography. I hate that it makes me hate seeing other women like that. I hate feeling hate for someone for an invalid reason: for possessing anatomy just like my own. I hate society and the media for allowing this. It makes me hate the world we live in. I hate it bc I don’t want to have to justify my beliefs on something that matters a lot to me to someone who is supposed to be supportive and caring to me, just bc I object to the objectification of women. I hate that it’s so unheard of to speak out about any of the factors that go into sexism.
I hate dreading seeing certain family bc I never know if I might have to see this one man who has sexually harassed me EVERY time I’ve seen him in my life, who does it in front of my family who do NOTHING ABOUT IT. You know what both of my dad, my mom, my aunt, and my grandmother have all said to me when I’ve spoken out to them about this old man? (My dad even SAW what the man was doing and was standing beside me WHILE it was happening the most recent time) “Oh don’t worry about him. I know he’s strange, but that’s just the person he is, he does that to everyone.” OH REALLY? JUST A PERSON WHO IS 3-4X MY AGE, WHO TELLS ME HOW “SEXY” I LOOK, WHO GRABS MY FACE AND FORCES ME INTO HIM KISSING ME ON THE LIPS, WHOSE HANDS FUCKING TOUCH ME AND MY LADY PARTS UNWANTEDLY AND WHO GRIPS ME SO HARD I CAN’T PULL HIS HAND OFF OF ME AND HE DOESN’T STOP WHEN I TELL HIM TO? I HAVE TO JERK AWAY FROM HIM AND WALK AWAY IN FRONT OF MY FAMILY and then get looks from THE WHOLE group like IM a “bitch” AND something is wrong with ME?
I hate trying to go fucking grocery shopping and getting cat called, followed, and stared at. I’m tired of it. Daily tasks when in public are interrupted and I’m made uncomfortable by this shit.
I hate fearing for my safety when I’m going out or even stepping outside after dark or when im alone. I hate limiting myself bc a part of me is scared to go out and live my life the way I want to. I should be able to party and not feel scared.
I hate the “make sure you’re safe, dress appropriately, don’t be under the influence, don’t go out after dark” lecture to “avoid rape” every time my mom says goodbye when I go out.
I hate that Im constantly hearing more stories of other women and girls who have been blamed for being raped bc it’s SOMETHING THE VICTIM DID RIGHT. How much the woman speaking out “screws up” the rapists life. AND WHATS WORSE IS THAT LESS THAN HALF OF ALL RAPES ARE ACTUALLY REPORTED. Partly bc so many people think victims “make up” rape cases. I hate that sexual harassment literally starts when you hit puberty and it sticks with you.
I hate knowing that if things don’t change I can put in the same amount of work as a male counterpart at the same job, and so the work equally as well (or better), and get paid only around 75% what that male counterpart would.
I hate how under punished rapists are for their crimes (when the case is actually brought to the attention of a judge). ONLY 3% OF RAPISTS SPEND EVEN A DAY IN JAIL.
I hate how it’s not common knowledge that you can go and have EVIDENCE collected that may identify and convict the rapist within 1-2 days and that you CANNOT shower or otherwise clean yourself up for that to happen. Talk about degradation to the max.
I hate that convicted rapists can seek custody and visitation rights in the majority of US states.
I hate how politicians think women can’t get pregnant from rape, meanwhile 32,000 women get pregnant from rape in the USA alone EACH YEAR.
I hate how disgustingly high the percentages are for males (females too, but a lower percent) that think its okay to rape in x situation. IT IS NEVER OKAY.
I hate that all this has turned me cold and led me to hate the world that I was born into. I hate that at times it can be a daily battle as to whether or not I want to stick around.
Most of all I hate feeling “lucky” for not having worse stories of sexual harassment or rape. It is disgusting that I have to continue to feel this fear that I will someday be raped or sexually harassed again. I can say for certain that if the world stays the same now, chances are pretty high ill be victims of both (again) in my lifetime.
1 IN EVERY 4 WOMEN WILL BE SURVIVORS OF RAPE. DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA OF HOW FUCKED UP THAT IS.
Share this video if it has touched your heart as well, share your stories, speak out when sexually harassed or raped. Let’s make this difference together.
that commentary hit home.
I know that feeling all too well..